Surrounding The Water Cooler ~ Foot Massaging

Names have been changed to protect the innocent and the guilty

I am sure if more people in the office drank coffee then these conversations would take place over coffee breaks. Seeing how everyone is becoming so health conscience these days, fun tidbits surround the water cooler rather then the coffee maker.

There is a lot of talk about what things are appropriate at certain levels in dating. There are people who have lots of levels and rules and they are not going to kiss you, much less shack up with you on the first date. Then, you have people who go by less rules and what they do just depends on how they are feeling about you. I guess people who adhere to different levels have probably made life more complicated for themselves and the people they date. And I guess this is really not a topic you discuss on a first date. Could you image saying to your date " That is level 6 and we are still on level 2." and then what if your date does not have levels, but bases and we all know there are three bases and then home plate. That could cause some real problems.

So, Ashley is "casually" seeing someone. Well, it sounds like he is trying to make this a little more then casual and she is basically trying to get back into dating after being in a relationship for a long time. They have not held hands or even kissed for that matter, so it seems that this solution should be pretty easy since no boundaries have been dissolved yet.

After their last date, Dave took Ashley home and walked her to her apartment and came in for a while. They sat around and chatted a bit and finally he asked if he could massage her feet. Ashley has set all of these levels for kissing, holding hands, etc, but foot massaging is not a level so this seems to have thrown her off. The fact that she is not really interested in taking this to any of her levels above a handshake is not helping either. I am not sure if Ashley found the smoothest way out of this, but she claimed that her feet were very sensitive and she would never be able to sit still. Not that a foot massage would have been bad, but she feared having to put a stop to anymore of Dave's ideas. From everything I know about the guy, he is well educated, respectful and very nice. The problem seems to be a serious lack of physical chemistry on her part.

Ashley made the mistake of telling two guys who were way too interested in teasing her about going out with guys who had weird fetishes or were just a little off. They added Dave the foot fellow to the list with guys like Joey, who scanned a bunch of pictures of Ashley on his computer (no telling what his plans were for those), and Drunken Darren who would show up outside her building late at night, three sheets to the wind and relieving himself in front of her neighbor's door.... Classy.....

Poor Dave.. I do not think he stands a chance.