The Truth About Babies and Marriage
If you have no interest in babies or how they could change your entire life, then these posts just won't be any fun for you. Now, if you are a having a baby or thinking about having a baby you might find this to be some very valuable information.
I guess I can start by saying that I am absolutely thrilled about my little bundle of joy that is on the way and scared to death at the same time. I am also beginning to think that my girlfriends are far too sweet and afraid to step on any toes to so boldly throw some of this stuff out in the open. I hope I am not the first to say that the moment you find out that you and your beloved are going to be parents, everything and I do mean everything changes. Your spending habits change, your plans for vacation, your season tickets, your nights out with friends, your date nights, your sex life, your conversations and your interactions with each other and your family. I may have left something out, but trust me, just because it is not listed does not mean it is not changed by the expected arrival of your first baby.
At first just out of fear and the weird factor your sex life will change. You may feel sick all of the time, because let's face it, morning sickness sometimes lasts all day. Or, you are going to be dog tired, you may not feel attractive or the thought of your child being present during such an intimate act might seem a little weird. So on that note you have to ask yourself if you have any memory of your folks having sex while you were a fetus? No, I did not think so. And it is a good thing. Otherwise we would need a lot more shrinks in this world.
Your spending habits immediately change and you will think about it. You stop buying those awesome strappy sandals and you start looking at maternity clothes. Old Navy summer clothes become automatically removed from your list. And yes you will hate it when you first realize it. Because let's face it, unless you have an endless amount of money maternity clothes are not going to be that stylish. You bypass all the fun skirts and tops at Target and walk straight to the maternity section of the store, just wondering if you could go up a size or two and still get away with that great pair of slacks you passed on the way.
One of the things that will change the most at first is the way you think- about everything. I realized that the way I think about my career, my free time and plans for my life were all changing. I was about to become someone's mom. That was a pretty big realization to come to. Being silly, making mistakes and forgetting things suddenly seems even more irresponsible to me than it did before. I was becoming a mom which meant that I should know how to make a peach pie from scratch, how to bathe and diaper a baby, what every cry meant, where the hammer is at all times, what needs to be cleaned and what is ready to wear, what is for dinner and where anyone's keys are at any given time. That is not too much to ask of any mom is it?
One other thing I have had to come to terms with is the Reproductive Vessel Syndrome. I am honestly amazed at the ability my body has to change, support and carry the growing life of a baby. The one thing that has been more difficult to get my hands around is how different I am to the rest of the world. For the most part I feel like myself, the way I felt before I was pregnant. The mirror reminds me that I am not the same. I get teased a little at work about being the "Round one" or "The Tick", cute I know. Everyone wants to touch a prego belly which is fine if I know you- strangers keep your hands off. That is just not cool. And maybe I have not identified this feeling correctly, but the Reproductive Vessel is the only way I know how to describe it. Now my sister absolutely adored her pregnant body. She found full excitement in the round belly that she developed and she even felt sexy. Sexy is not even on the radar for me now. And I have a difficult time imaging that I will ever be looked at as sexy again. That is just pregnancy hormones talking, I know.
My overall feeling is amazement, excitement and anticipation. I have done a lot of things in my lifetime, but I have yet to give life to another human being. I can now add that to my list. I am excited about getting to know my little bundle of joy and seeing him grow, what he will like and what he will do. And I am anticipating the process of labor. I have heard different things from my friends and they try to tell you what it is like, but I guess an experience like that is difficult to really put into words. But as my baby's daddy and I see it, our mommas did it, our friends are doing it, so I can too. I may not enjoy labor, but as one of my girlfriends has said, it is totally worth it.
If you have no interest in babies or how they could change your entire life, then these posts just won't be any fun for you. Now, if you are a having a baby or thinking about having a baby you might find this to be some very valuable information.
I guess I can start by saying that I am absolutely thrilled about my little bundle of joy that is on the way and scared to death at the same time. I am also beginning to think that my girlfriends are far too sweet and afraid to step on any toes to so boldly throw some of this stuff out in the open. I hope I am not the first to say that the moment you find out that you and your beloved are going to be parents, everything and I do mean everything changes. Your spending habits change, your plans for vacation, your season tickets, your nights out with friends, your date nights, your sex life, your conversations and your interactions with each other and your family. I may have left something out, but trust me, just because it is not listed does not mean it is not changed by the expected arrival of your first baby.
At first just out of fear and the weird factor your sex life will change. You may feel sick all of the time, because let's face it, morning sickness sometimes lasts all day. Or, you are going to be dog tired, you may not feel attractive or the thought of your child being present during such an intimate act might seem a little weird. So on that note you have to ask yourself if you have any memory of your folks having sex while you were a fetus? No, I did not think so. And it is a good thing. Otherwise we would need a lot more shrinks in this world.
Your spending habits immediately change and you will think about it. You stop buying those awesome strappy sandals and you start looking at maternity clothes. Old Navy summer clothes become automatically removed from your list. And yes you will hate it when you first realize it. Because let's face it, unless you have an endless amount of money maternity clothes are not going to be that stylish. You bypass all the fun skirts and tops at Target and walk straight to the maternity section of the store, just wondering if you could go up a size or two and still get away with that great pair of slacks you passed on the way.
One of the things that will change the most at first is the way you think- about everything. I realized that the way I think about my career, my free time and plans for my life were all changing. I was about to become someone's mom. That was a pretty big realization to come to. Being silly, making mistakes and forgetting things suddenly seems even more irresponsible to me than it did before. I was becoming a mom which meant that I should know how to make a peach pie from scratch, how to bathe and diaper a baby, what every cry meant, where the hammer is at all times, what needs to be cleaned and what is ready to wear, what is for dinner and where anyone's keys are at any given time. That is not too much to ask of any mom is it?
One other thing I have had to come to terms with is the Reproductive Vessel Syndrome. I am honestly amazed at the ability my body has to change, support and carry the growing life of a baby. The one thing that has been more difficult to get my hands around is how different I am to the rest of the world. For the most part I feel like myself, the way I felt before I was pregnant. The mirror reminds me that I am not the same. I get teased a little at work about being the "Round one" or "The Tick", cute I know. Everyone wants to touch a prego belly which is fine if I know you- strangers keep your hands off. That is just not cool. And maybe I have not identified this feeling correctly, but the Reproductive Vessel is the only way I know how to describe it. Now my sister absolutely adored her pregnant body. She found full excitement in the round belly that she developed and she even felt sexy. Sexy is not even on the radar for me now. And I have a difficult time imaging that I will ever be looked at as sexy again. That is just pregnancy hormones talking, I know.
My overall feeling is amazement, excitement and anticipation. I have done a lot of things in my lifetime, but I have yet to give life to another human being. I can now add that to my list. I am excited about getting to know my little bundle of joy and seeing him grow, what he will like and what he will do. And I am anticipating the process of labor. I have heard different things from my friends and they try to tell you what it is like, but I guess an experience like that is difficult to really put into words. But as my baby's daddy and I see it, our mommas did it, our friends are doing it, so I can too. I may not enjoy labor, but as one of my girlfriends has said, it is totally worth it.
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